How do I begin to describe the best things about my recent trip to France? Let’s start with my newfound love affair with Air France; new friends; Maison Laudrée’s legendary macarons; the Eiffel Tower at night; the gilt and grandeur of Versailles; the d’Orsay and Rodin Museums; decorative French Ironwork; tall walnut doors and old parquet floors; La Réserve B&B in Giverny; the beauty that is 1010 Park Place’s own Esther Zimmer, inside and out–Essie came from London and met me in Paris!–or that water is served in wine bottles.
I learned several things about self-care, although to my surprise, not where I expected to find it: in the Extreme Self-Care Retreat.
The best thing about my trip to France was understanding the importance of unplugging from everything. After mother’s death; selling the ranch; moving twice—in 16 days—and a to-do list that seems to grow by itself in the middle of the night, I needed a vacation. Except for posting my blog and some photos to Instagram, I disconnected and relinquished the familiar and embraced “la différence.” Incase you didn’t catch that… Make time to unplug from everything!
As far as self-care… Most of us have reached the age where we know what we should be doing to take care of ourselves. We know what foods to eat and that we need to exercise, stay hydrated and find time to play. The hard part is actually doing them… and then doing them on a regular basis.
Extreme self-care starts with not fooling ourselves that we’re eating healthy foods and getting enough exercise. An honest look in the mirror will tell us—and those around us—that’s simply not true. Extreme self-care is learning to set boundaries; how to say “no,” and putting ourselves first. It’s not selfish. It’s self-preservation.
Extreme self-care is creating an authentic life; one we don’t fill up with junk because it was cheap. It’s paring down our environment so the only things around us are things that fuel our soul and bring us peace. Extreme self-care is MAKING LIFE COUNT.
After standing in front of the mirror, what if we make a list of 10 things we need—as much as air itself—to create a healthy, positive difference in our lives? The top two things I need on my list are unplugging and connecting with friends in person, not online.
Today I spoke with a special friend who’s recovering from cancer treatment. We talked about finding our “new normal” after cancer and decided what we really find is a new perspective. We see life through a different lens. For me, that’s what extreme self-care is all about. We view our lives with the intention of making life count. We embrace the things we’ve put off, or feared, like losing weight; changing jobs; getting out of a bad marriage; cleaning out the garage or maybe… What if we sell the house, lease an apartment and travel?
What do you see through your lens of extreme self-care? What’s stopping you from creating it?