While unpacking the last wave of boxes from my storage units, I found a letter from my friend, Marjorie. She printed it on thick card stock and brought it to my house when it was my turn to host our girlfriends’ group for dinner. At that point, Marjorie and I had been friends for 20 years.
Marjorie’s been there through the death of my first husband and my second. When she gave me this letter, 14 years ago, I’d been diagnosed with breast cancer the day before.
I met Marjorie through my friend, Rob, who’s been in my life since we took college geology together. Like the early Spanish explorers, Rob and my first husband and I embarked on dozens of expeditions to dig for Mayan treasures in the Yucatan jungles or to look for minerals and crystals in abandoned silver mines. Some were easy trips. Others… Let’s just say we survived by the hair of our chinny-chin-chins.
Marjorie’s letter reminded me how important it is to be there for the women in our lives.
“There are some things you learn best in calm, and some in storm.” Willa Cather
Brenda dear… into the storm you have been thrown, and how painful, wretched and unjust. But from this chapter of your long, bright, adventure-filled life will come new strength and resolve, and how fortunate for us that we will be here to share it with you. We will curse and bless with you, flail and pray with you, and watch joyfully as you begin to discover the gifts concealed by the storm. Then, in the calm, will you find peace.
“You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You must do the thing you cannot do.” Eleanor Roosevelt
Brenda dear… you have looked into the face of fear on many occasions. You have conquered and vanquished the evil and laughed at its retreat, and you will do so again. This may be the big one, the thing which you thought you could not do, but you can and you will, and we will watch with joy and admiration as you prevail victorious.
“When I look into the future, it’s so bright it burns my eyes.” Oprah Winfrey
Brenda dear… and when the dust has settled and you are restored anew, you’ll see sights and hear sounds and feel passion and dance to music that you never noticed before, loving this life and all its multitudinous beneficence.
“Hospitality is one form of worship.” Talmud
Brenda dear… who else among us would beckon her friends to celebrate life, friendship and communion in the midst of such news? Who else but you… and we share gladly because such hospitality is a form of worship.
The women in our lives are more precious than diamonds. Do you have a girlfriend who needs your support… who needs to hear from you?