My girlfriend said she would never share the kind of things I share on my blog. She was referring to the intimate parts of life most people keep to themselves. I call those my truths. Whether we share them or not, our truths are hard won. A truth can be a life-altering tragedy or a single word, spoken in anger, but they alter the beats of our heart. They etch their way into our memories, and our bodies bare some of their scars. For most of my life, I kept my truths to myself, but a few years ago, I decided if one person reads my story and has an ah-ha moment, then I will have done something good.
NEVER BEING LOVED AND NEVER FINDING OUR VOICE ARE TWO OF LIFE’S GREATEST TRAGEDIES.
After my first husband died, I wrote a fiction book that got me a well-known agent. Before she found a publisher for it, she was hit with a personal crisis. While she put her clients on hold, I stepped back and decided my story—even wrapped in fiction—wasn’t in anyone’s best interest to tell. I took my manuscript back from the agency. While I may never share the truths behind the fiction I wrote, I discovered that what I’ve experienced in real life deserves better than a make believe story. I also discovered that our truths are where our power and our voice resides. Once we’ve found them, no one can take them away from us.
Some of us never find our voice. Some of us never learn how to say “no,” or how to standup for what we believe or need from a partner. Never being loved and never finding our voice are two of life’s greatest tragedies.
If we allow ourselves to learn from the things that have happened to us, this knowledge gives us the power to keep from making the same mistakes again and again. Without our truths, we marry the wrong men; work at the wrong jobs and pretend life is alright, when it’s not. Our history helps us change how we look at life. It’s what molds us and makes us into the people we become tomorrow. Our truths make us more compassionate and allow us to forgive—not just those who’ve wronged us—but ourselves. If you believe in God, our truths are those things we will recount when we stand before Him.
Are you honest with yourself about your life and your truths? Are you introspective and have you learned from them, or do you continue to run through life’s twists and turns with blinders on?