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Masturbation 11, Pilgrims Zero

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Refinery29, a site for Millennial women, published three stories this week that flew all over me. The first one called out actress, Hilary Duff, and her boyfriend, Jason Walsh, for wearing modest, but “racist” Pilgrim and American Indian Halloween costumes. The next story was a slideshow of “The 11 Best Sex Toys for Your Halloween Costume” and featured small vibrators to hide in your crotch while trick-or-treating. The third story was Kylie Jenner’s Halloween costume: assless leather chaps and a string bikini top, “Very Dirty… Perfection.”

I’m the antithesis of a prude, and this is not a political post, merely an observation about a culture that’s lost it’s grip on critical thinking skills.

Political correctness has run amok. Instead of supporting minorities, in many ways, political correctness is divisive and dismissive of them. Take the LIVES MATTER movement. By saying Pilgrim and Indian Halloween costumes are racist, we’re selectively editing a people and their history out of our culture. In some ways, this is saying their LIVES DON’T MATTER. Political correctness advocates claim we need to be sensitive of the “red man” issue, yet at the same time, calling us “white people” and “black people” is okay. Let’s embrace and celebrate our differences! Don’t shame Hilary Duff and Emma Roberts–who last year put chopsticks in her hair and “offended Asians”–into public apologies.

The Pilgrims came here in search of a better life. In doing so, some killed and disadvantaged the Indians. How are they any different from the illegal immigrants who pour over our borders every day? Illegal immigrants hurt job-hunting Americans by working for lower wages; burden an already stressed welfare system–you and I can’t afford to pay for as it is–and yes, many sell drugs that kill our children, and others are security risks. When we shout illegal immigrant LIVES MATTER, we seem to forget it’s often not in the best interest of ourselves and our children. When will AMERICAN LIVES MATTER FIRST?”

Now that I’m wound up… Let’s talk “pussy.”

Pussy is everywhere, i.e., women are writing about the best vibrators to stick up theirs on Halloween. Vibrators are great, but let’s have some decorum on when and where we use them. Also the “Pussy Bow Blouse” is one of this year’s biggest fashion trends. This week online store, Net-a-Porter, had 833 PUSSY bow blouses for sale.

Either we own up to our casual use of the term “pussy” or we don’t, but we can’t stay on this path and complain about the degrading cultural and sexist ramifications. If next year’s male fashion trend is a COCK shirt, will it be okay until we use it to our political advantage by protesting against it?

We need to back off of our obsession with political correctness, and stop glamorizing trashy Kardashians and barely dressed rap “bitches and hoes” as role models. Are they really the kind of women we want our daughters and granddaughters to emulate… or our sons and grandsons to think they can manhandle… or should marry?


Love, Brenda


  • Barbara Bergin November 5, 2016 at 6:24 am

    Well said Brenda!

  • Deborah Loeffler November 5, 2016 at 6:58 am


    • 1010ParkPlace November 6, 2016 at 7:10 pm

      Wonderful! So happy we agree!

  • tara s dillard November 5, 2016 at 7:57 am

    Follow the money. Same article topics could be from the $$$ slant/angle. Some of those funding ‘issues’ in your post have their names cropping up in corruption of our political system too.

    I am member of Daughters of the American Revolution, and have 2 great great grandmothers 100% Cherokee. Makes me wildly American.


    • 1010ParkPlace November 6, 2016 at 7:12 pm

      Dear “Wildly American,” Tara, my late husband was Comanche Indian. He would be horrified by this nonsense. Thanks for weighing in. Brenda

  • Barbara November 5, 2016 at 10:30 am

    You are on FIRE! This is so perfect. Made me laugh but made me think. Can’t beat that combo. I’m spreading this around.

    • 1010ParkPlace November 6, 2016 at 7:13 pm

      Yes, m’am! Thanks for getting the word out. xoxox, Brenda

  • Donna O'Klock November 5, 2016 at 10:47 am

    My sweetie woke me up this morning to tell me, “That Brenda Coffee is my kinda gal!” He loved your rant, as do I.
    Everyone is too darn prickly these days. It’s gone beyond reason. Thanks for calling ’em like you see ’em!

    • 1010ParkPlace November 6, 2016 at 7:14 pm

      Hi Donna, I like that man of yours and I haven’t even met him! xoxox, Brenda

  • Jim Casper November 5, 2016 at 12:31 pm

    Thank you for stating the facts.

    • November 6, 2016 at 7:16 pm

      Thanks for your support, Jim. I appreciate it. I do. Brenda

  • Brenda Yates November 5, 2016 at 3:45 pm

    I am so glad to hear you tell it like it is! It’s way past time for ordinary Americans, both female and male, to do our own shoutouts about the decline of decency. We have allowed the nasty folks to get away with being out front and center with their indecent words and actions that are bringing about the decline of what is the best in our American culture.. And shame on us if we don’t take control and help bring about getting back to what has made our country the place where people all over the world want to live.

    • 1010ParkPlace November 6, 2016 at 7:20 pm

      Well said, Brenda! To hear America’s critics–our own citizens–you’d have to think long and hard why people from other countries would want to immigrate here. I could easily post Part II, Part III, and so on of this post that would span other areas in which “WE THE PEOPLE” have been silenced. If you’d like to read more, please let me know. I appreciate your support. Thank you, Brenda

  • Diane November 6, 2016 at 9:24 am

    Exactly as I wish I could have said it, Brenda!
    What did I come up with: This world is weird.

  • 1010ParkPlace November 6, 2016 at 7:24 pm

    Diane, You’re so right. We’re weird. What’s more, in my opinion, we’ve lost sight of truth, morals and we’ve lost our gumption to standup and be heard. This coming from a woman who’s definitely not a prude, but enough is enough. The world went gaga the other night over Beyonce’s CMA outfit. It was nothing more than netting over a thong. I was horrified… in the minority, but disgusted nevertheless. Thanks for weighing, Brenda

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