I’m fed up. I’m tired of people telling me they hate their lives and their careers and they, “Can’t be bothered to make an effort anymore.” I’ve been hearing this a lot lately, and it’s not just the younger generation who seem to believe that once they figure out what they really want to do with their lives – or discover a career they really love – everything will be effortless! There will be no slog! They’ll never work another day in their life!
It’s a story we’re all being fed these days, over and over again: Create a life you love and everything will be easy.
I believe we should all aim to be good custodians of our lives.
It’s our responsibility to create lives we love, and yes, that usually means doing work we love, too.
Love, however, doesn’t always equal easy. Anyone who’s ever been in a long-term relationship knows this. I adore my husband. He’s my best friend – the person I most enjoy spending time with in this world – but people are often shocked when I tell them we’ve had counselling. People believe when you’re in love, like we are, there shouldn’t be any difficult patches.
Believing that love of any kind automatically equals ease is creating a lot of unhappiness. It’s my experience that doing what you love can still be challenging, and inspiration is a fickle friend. Even when you love what you do, it can still be hard to motivate yourself to actually do it.
Working through the hard parts takes determination and a willingness to keep showing up, but it’s what it takes to succeed in the end. Good looks, skill and talent mean nothing if you can’t apply yourself to the task at hand. Don’t get me wrong; I’m not suggesting you remain in a career that makes you utterly miserable. But even if you find something you truly love doing, there will be days when you don’t feel like giving it your all.
What if you make an effort, even when you don’t really feel like it? You might be surprised to discover you’ll move from “Can’t be bothered,” to “Can do,” and end up where you wanted to be all along.