It’s that time of the year when I pull out my fall clothes. Painstakingly one by one, I try on each piece and ask myself the same questions I pose to my clients.
“Does it fit?”
“Do I love it?”
“Is it comfortable?”
“Will I wear it?”
Each season I purge my closet, but this year is different because SO many of my clothes no longer work. Over the past six months my body has taken on a different shape. My waistline is no longer as defined (I’ve thickened!), my belly is rounder, and my butt is definitely bigger. The discard pile looks like a mountain. Nothing fits this year.
After I did the customary “hemming and hawing,” with a bit of whining thrown in for good measure, I decided to move on. Throwing myself a pity party isn’t going to change things, and it certainly won’t boost my self-esteem. I could keep the clothes that don’t fit, hoping someday I’ll get back into them, but I seriously doubt that will happen. The times they are a changing, and I need to let go.
Letting go isn’t easy. It’s tough to remove the image of how we “used to” look and come to terms with changes that we have no control over… Hello menopause! But it’s even more than that. It’s about embracing who we are right now, in the moment. It’s about accepting changes, the good and the bad. It’s about getting rid of expectations of how we “should” look and the remorse about how we “used to” look.
As women, we are our own worst critics. It’s much easier to be self-critical than to be accepting, but this fall I made a pact with myself. I refuse to beat myself up for going up a size or two, and I’m DONE scrutinizing my almost 55-year-old body. Now I’m not saying I’ll throw in the towel. No way! I will continue to eat right (most of the time) and exercise. Staying healthy is important to me. But most of all, I’m going to do my best to be more accepting and downright nicer to myself as the changes occur.
So the discard buckets are now chock-full of clothes to donate… loved you, wore you, and now it’s time to part ways. Half my closet is empty (hubby is happy), but you know what that means? Shopping!