Perhaps it’s because I have a big birthday coming up in June, but I find myself drawn to strong women over 70 who are still rock’n and blowin’ the house down in style. In February I went to see Fleetwood Mac and Stevie Nicks, who’ll be 71 in May. I have a ticket to Diana Ross’s 75th Diamond Jubilee Birthday concert, and I’m going to see Cherilyn Sarkisian, the “I Got You Babe,” who will be 73 in May. It’s not like I’ve always loved them, “the way I do the Rolling Stones,” so why am I going?
Simply put… Women over 70 inspire me.
Perhaps it’s because Stevie, Cher and Miss Ross have “made it” in every sense of the word yet they’re still out there, living life out loud. They haven’t given up in any area of their lives. They take care of themselves, physically and mentally, and they haven’t stopped trying new things. Yes, they’ve been on world concert tours before—and have lots of help—but they’ve never geared up for a world tour at this age. I think it’s amazing!
I’m inspired to know Cher watches her diet and works out to keep her butt in shape, and she can hold a plank position for over two minutes. I like knowing these are single women who are embracing life with or without a mate. I don’t have anyone in my life, and I’m not going on a world tour, but I still want to stay in shape. I still want to experience new things… just for me, even if I do them alone.
There’s another group of women over 70 who inspire me, and I fear they’re the silent majority. The women who are depressed and alone without a social network; struggling with a debilitating or terminal illness; a distant or abusive spouse; estranged from their children; caring for aging parents; homeless or wondering if they’ll have enough money to last the rest of their lives? They’re proud women who, daily, rise to the occasion, determined to survive with their dignity intact. Those are the REAL INSPIRING WOMEN.
Then there are the women I wish I could inspire. Women, closer to 70 than 50, who lack self-confidence; are afraid to state their opinions, and don’t have anything in life that motivates them.
I wrote a post about Women Over 50’s Unspoken Health Risk… it’s not breast cancer or heart disease but lack of purpose. Not having a reason to get up in the morning. There are as many solutions to this problem as there are women who need solutions, but how do we find a new purpose? I don’t pretend to have a solution for this crucial problem, but if you need a new purpose in life, I can encourage you to take it seriously. Think about it. Dip your toe in the water repeatedly, if necessary, to find something that’s a good fit for you.
Just tossing out ideas… What if you start with the online event’s calendar in your area and go to a festival, a farmer’s market or an event that peaks your interest? You never know who you might meet and where it could lead. You could look for a job, even part-time, that suits your skills… or lack thereof; volunteer or mentor at a women’s shelter; be a docent at a museum; get involved with a charity; learn to play an instrument; take dance lessons or enroll in a class at a university.
It’s never too late to begin, again, and don’t say you’re too old because none of us know how long we’ll be here. We could be 35 and our life could end tomorrow.