Six months ago one of my online friends fell and crushed the cartilage in her hip. If you don’t know what that means, it’s bone on bone, and she’s in extreme pain. After a bad emergency room diagnosis and weeks of no improvement, her primary care physician ordered an MRI and a bone density test. The results? Her femur’s cracked in two places, and she has torn cartilage.
This kind of injury would have happened even if my friend was 39, but the fact that she’s 59 meant she had to fight to get the care she deserved.
Because of her age, she’s been passed off from one negligent and/or uninterested doctor to another… until a caring Doogie Howser stepped in, gave her a cortisone shot to ease the pain and told her she needed a hip replacement.
This distresses me no end, because it means there are lots of uninterested, quick-to-diagnose doctors out there, talking to women our age. It also means many physicians ARE NOT PREDISPOSED TO HEAR—OR EVEN BE INTERESTED IN—us!
After 10 breast cancer surgeries—two were live-saving surgeries I DEMANDED—and eight rounds of chemotherapy, I know from experience: We must be our own, persistent healthcare advocate, and listen to our little voice. Our life and well-being depends on it.
My friend is nervous about hip surgery… I would be too, but she’s a smart woman so I know she’ll do her homework and find the best surgeon. Her next step will be to get herself physically and mentally ready so she emerges from surgery with the best possible outcome. Boy, do I know how to do that!
If you’re a regular reader then you know I’m a big advocate of self-hypnosis and guided imagery, also self-hypnosis. I’ve done both since 1987. With the help of a highly skilled hypnotherapist, both techniques use guided relaxation and focused attention that can help you with fear, pain, preparing for surgery, cancer treatment, even PTSD. The therapist will make you a tape recording of your session to take with you. I listened to my tapes twice a day before each surgery, chemo, etc.
My doctors were baffled as to why I required less anesthesia—than anticipated—for a seven hour breast cancer surgery, or why I healed in a blink from a total hysterectomy. It was hypnosis and/or guided imagery. Don’t ever underestimate the power of our mind to help us heal ourselves.
And what would I do without Belleruth Naperstek, the founding mother of guided imagery? Even if you don’t need surgery and you’re perfectly fine, I’m betting someone you know needs her audios.