Many of us who grew up during the early women’s movement were told we could have it all. The reality is yes, we can have it all—just not at the same time—but working toward that goal can push us past the brink of running on empty. When’s the last time you did something special, even extravagant, to recharge your batteries? I don’t mean going to a conference, or a trip with your husband, but something that says, “I’ve raised my children; taught school; managed a company and put everything and everyone else before me? Now it’s my turn!”
If you’re like most women, the answer is never. What are you waiting for girlfriend?
When I read about An Extreme Self Care Retreat to Giverny and Paris, France, this April 22nd—29th, 2016, I knew it had my name on it. The retreat is led by Ann Hoffman-Ruffner, a Certified Brené Brown, Ph.D. Daring Way™ facilitator. Ann is also a Certified Martha Beck, Ph.D. Life Coach. Because I didn’t know Ann, I called her to learn more.
Ann Hoffman-Ruffner has been a therapist for over 25 years. Like many of us, she’s juggled a job, a husband, a teenage daughter, aging parents and outside commitments. It wasn’t until she went through Brené Brown and Martha Beck’s certification programs that she recognized her own life was out of balance.
“I didn’t realize what a huge impact Martha and Brené’s work would have on me personally,” Ann said. “We wear blindfolds about what’s important and armor up against each other, even our husbands and children. My ability to be vulnerable and authentic, joyful and playful was buried under so much armor.”
Since achieving her own ah-ha moment, Ann now helps women achieve those same breakthroughs by taking them on the trip of a lifetime. Ann gives women the tools to discover themselves; to open the door to the next chapter of their life. What does it look like, and how do I get there? Ann has seen, firsthand, that something important happens when women leave their homes and travel half-way around the world to experience life through a new window… when women give and receive courage from one another.
Ann’s Extreme Self Care Retreat appeals to me because I’m at a place where I want to do something just for me. Not 1010 Park Place related, but just for me. I know, all too well, tomorrow is promised to no one. I’ve survived breast cancer, the death of two husbands and my mother, and most recently, two moves in two weeks. I know that along with survival comes the end of many of our dreams. At the same time, we gain the knowledge that we can keep moving forward, but to what end? Where are we all going in such a hurry? Are we even on the right path, and if not, how do we find it? BTW, 1010 Park Place is my path, and I’m excited about what the future holds, but the idea of a pampered, self-exploratory trip to France, with a group of likeminded women, is too good to resist.
“One of the catalysts for growth and renewal is providing that safe place and sacred space we can fill ourselves back up,” Ann said. “Everything’s done for you on this trip. Everything’s taken care of. All you have to do is show up.
“On one of my previous trips we had a woman who’d been a CEO of various companies all her life. The first morning she looked at me and said, ‘I’m so excited. I’ve never had to be responsible for anything but me.’”
I’m that woman, so sign me up! April 22nd, I’m going to France with Ann Hoffman-Ruffner. Who’s coming with me?
PS: Just so you know, I’m not receiving a price break or compensation of any kind for writing this post or going on this trip. It’s something that appeals to me, and I wanted to share it with all of you.