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Why We All Need a Little Real Housewives in Our Lives

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I have a confession to make. I love The Real Housewives of New York City. While they’ve been derided as everything from anti-feminist to blatantly consumerist, Luann, Bethenny, Sonja, Ramona, Dorinda and Carole are my kind of gals.

I live deep in the heart of real housewife country. After-school pickup here has started to look like a go-see for a Fabletics ad. Unlike the Real Housewives, many of the real housewives I know pretend their lives are as perfect as they look. There is little general discussion of aging, marriage struggles, the trials of parenting or financial stress. Women mainly talk about kitchen remodels, vacation properties and the accomplishments of their kids. Were it not for a handful of honest friends I’ve made, it would be a depressing place to live. Thankfully, every once in a while, you get a glimpse of what’s really going on, like when hackers revealed that our sleepy little town logged the fourth highest Ashley Madison credit card charges in the country.

The sometimes brutal honesty draws me to the women of RHONY. Over the years the Housewives have discussed the breakdown of their marriages, health crises and widowhood. They talk about how hard they work and the importance of financial stability. No subject is considered taboo.

It’s ironic that women known for breast implants, hair extensions and eye lifts keep it more real than women wearing mom jeans at book club.

Each of these women are survivors. Carole and Dorinda were widowed young; Ramona was recently left by her husband; the others are divorced. Jules, at 34, is the youngest of the lot and going through a divorce that promises to teach a lot of life lessons. I wonder if the producers could foresee this when they cast her on the show.

In spite of having endured so much – or perhaps because they’ve endured so much – these women like to have a lot of fun. In the words of their Orange County cast-mate, Vicki Gunvalson, they love to whoop it up. In the midst of the series finale drama Bethenny hosted a party–featuring a piñata stuffed with jewelry–because she knows there are days when all you want to do is hit something and wear diamonds. You have to love that.

The best thing is that in spite of it all, these women are there for each other. As Bethenny said in her toast, capping off another drama-filled season, “We have had men die on us, cheat on us, steal from us, and we’re still standing. Here’s to the empowerment of women. I love you all.”

We should all have a tribe like that.

 


8 Comments

  • Sara August 28, 2016 at 6:03 pm

    LOVE this! I was pondering the very same earlier this week…. why is it that everyone around me seems to have their shit together and I’m the one having anxiety attacks at 3 am…? Age and wisdom tell me that the more polished and put together your life seems on Instagram and Facebook the more demons are likely lurking in your cabinets… now that summer is ending maybe I’ll give up some of my reading time for a little TV time with the Real Housewives to keep things in perspective. Thanks for a great post, Jen.

    • 1010ParkPlace August 28, 2016 at 8:36 pm

      Wonderful post, Jen! The RHONY sounds like fun! BTW, Sara… I don’t believe everyone has their shit together… and let’s talk about Instagram!! Does everyone have Instagram stylists? Who lives like this on an everyday basis? Have you seen the guy and his wife who live on yachts and private planes, and he dances in his swim trunks with one suit leg rolled shorter than the other one? Is he the prototype for the “most fascinating man in the world.” Last night I crawled into bed to read a bit and wound up surfing his Instagram page until after midnight. Yikes! xoxox, Brenda

  • Susan August 29, 2016 at 7:10 pm

    Love this, Jen! You are spot on…too many pretenders, whose lives are a mess in the background. Cheers to Authenticity!

  • Jen August 31, 2016 at 9:08 pm

    Thank you! I think the kindest thing we can do for one another is be authentic about our own struggles. It’s why I love this space. Xo

  • Esther Zimmer September 2, 2016 at 5:56 am

    I love this! I too am so over the pretenders…give me authentic, messy and complicated but still willing to have fun each and every day of the week. I don’t know what irks me the most though, these people who pretend their lives are perfect or the thousands, if not millions, of people who follow them and wish their lives were so rosy. When did we lose the ability to think for ourselves and see through all of this fakery? Esther xx

    • Jen Lawrence September 7, 2016 at 12:07 pm

      Me too! Authentic, messy, complicated and fun: perfectly said!

  • Patricia Douville September 2, 2016 at 3:08 pm

    Love this and the Real Housewives of New York! I love those women and the camaraderie between them all. Bethenny’s toast at the end of that episode said it all!

    • Jen Lawrence September 7, 2016 at 12:07 pm

      It was a great toast! xo

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