A friend and I were having coffee when we started talking about how lovely it was not to go out any more. She’d seen a sign in a gift shop that read, Let’s Stay Home, and we both thought it was just beautiful.
The whole Hygge trend, embracing the Danish notion of comfort, reflects that my friend and I are not alone.
Dining out at the new hot restaurant or going to an A-List party has been surpassed by pillows, reading socks and tea.
I think as the world seems scarier and more polarized, there’s a strong temptation to stay in. An innocuous dinner party can turn into a shouting match if you don’t match the guests’ political affiliations carefully. The decision to get a ride home can erupt into a battle over the ethics of taxis versus ride-sharing services. As Mike on the TV show, The Middle, said, “Nothing good ever happens when you leave the house.”
In my late 20s and early 30s, I worked all the time. When I wasn’t working, I was out at dinner, a film premiere, or I was travelling. I ran around town in leather leggings and high heels. It was all very glamorous.
In my early 40s, after several years of staying home with young kids, I again found myself going out all the time. I was divorced, and I didn’t like staying put in an empty house when the kids weren’t there. I discovered a group of adults who loved to go to concerts, bars and parties, and I went with them. When my kids were away, I’d regularly be out until the wee small hours, and I travelled whenever I could. By then my feet ached in heels, and although it was glamorous, it was also exhausting. There was so much drama all the time. It was like a living episode of the Real Housewives, complete with drunken women yelling because someone’s aging husband was leering at someone else. Frankly, it was all too much.
Now that I’m in my mid-40s, remarried and more settled, it’s such a treat to stay home. At home, there’s no drama. At home, there’s no risk of getting into a yelling match with a drunken housewife or spending $14 on a middling glass of wine. There are pillows and reading socks and tea.
When the world is topsy-turvy, it’s a luxury to den in with family, pets, and friends. Open a bottle of wine, pour yourself a cup of tea, invite a friend over for a chat, order in dinner, or crack open that book you’ve been meaning to read.
Let’s stay home.