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The United States of America was built on Freedom: Freedom of speech. Freedom of religion. Freedom to cast our votes for leaders and laws that align with our beliefs. When our founding fathers wrote the Constitution, they didn’t list every possible “inalienable right,” but Americans have always believed those rights included the right to think freely.

We cannot sanctify violence and rioting against people and property because there’s a conservative—or a liberal—speaking at the podium or living next door.

In the mad dog rush to undermine every facet of our nation’s election results, the violence against those who didn’t vote like us or think like us is giving the finger to every one of our rights.

It’s not a wall we need to build but a bridge… from one ideology to the other. We must find common ground and come together. If we don’t, we will have a civil war where neighbors kill neighbors and family kills family. United… in some form or fashion, we stand. Divided, we fall.

I don’t know about you, but my heart is torn in pieces…

Love, Brenda

40 Comments

  • Reply Susan Macaulay February 4, 2017 at 6:15 am

    Yes, I think your country is in deep trouble. So is the rest of the world.

    • Reply 1010ParkPlace February 5, 2017 at 1:58 pm

      We couldn’t be more divided, and it didn’t happen overnight… The world is in a scary place, isn’t it, Susan? Thanks for stopping by and commenting, Brenda

  • Reply Debbie White February 4, 2017 at 6:23 am

    Very well said, Brenda. So true!

    • Reply 1010ParkPlace February 5, 2017 at 1:59 pm

      You did it!! Knew you would, smart lady! xoxox, Brenda

  • Reply Ellen Brown February 4, 2017 at 6:28 am

    Well articulated! Where is peace?

    • Reply 1010ParkPlace February 5, 2017 at 2:00 pm

      At this point in time, peace seems like a beloved place like heaven. Will we get there? Thank you, Ellen.

  • Reply Alana February 4, 2017 at 8:21 am

    As a student of our United States Civil War, I totally agree, and I’ve had this concern for the last couple of years. I am really concerned now.

    • Reply 1010ParkPlace February 5, 2017 at 2:01 pm

      That’s good to know about you, Alana. Have you written or thought about the parallels between where they were then and we are now? xoxox, Brenda

  • Reply holly February 4, 2017 at 9:58 am

    There is a deep fear of the current occupant of the White House. A man who mocks people with disabilities. A man who characterizes sexual assault as “locker-room banter”. A man who insults and berates other nation’s leaders. A man who is comfortable with name-calling. A man who lies to his fellow citizens on wall-building and payment of said. A man who lumps all Muslims into one terrorist bucket. A man who believes that bankruptcy is a tool to rip off creditors for his own financial advancement. A man who freely admits to wanting to date his own daughter. This list is getting long people and as it does, the fear deepens for the direction of our beloved nation. I marched in the Women’s March on 01/21 and will march again and again. I do not advocate violence but I will not “get over it” and I am not a “sore loser”. I am deeply afraid of what this man is doing to our country — on the daily.

    • Reply 1010ParkPlace February 5, 2017 at 2:03 pm

      I hear you, Holly. So many of us have been afraid and alarmed for years. I just hope we all come out the other side as a whole country that’s not full of hate and division. Thank you, Brenda

  • Reply Susan Bell February 4, 2017 at 10:26 am

    What Holly said!

    • Reply Doreen McGettigan February 4, 2017 at 12:46 pm

      I couldn’t agree more Brenda. This President has been portrayed as a monster by the media and unfortunately many people believe what they hear and accept what they read as fact. Those perpetrating angry and false narratives are sore losers and instead of actually doing something constructive like taking in a refugee family or taking in an American homeless family they color signs and walk around inconveniencing commerce, they repost falsehoods on social media and call the secretaries of congressmen and women and shout at them. They bully anyone on social media that does not agree with them. They slander the President, his family and his cabinet picks. They bully the 10-year-old son of the President. They grab onto clickbait words like ‘racist’ ‘sexist’ etc…and chomp like dogs on them.
      I’m embarrassed and deeply hurt especially by women who are tearing other women down because their choices and beliefs are different. The women doing this claim to be for women’s choice and they claim to be all inclusive and accepting. They are sore losers and most importantly they are hypocrites.
      We are headed towards civil war because our kids have not been taught how to lose they are being taught to take what they want and to hurt whoever stands in their way of getting it.
      Deep down I know as women we are better than this. We were always problem solvers not the cause of problems. As long as we continue to be divided and refuse to find common ground we will all fail.

      • Reply 1010ParkPlace February 5, 2017 at 2:18 pm

        You’ve said something very profound here, Doreen: Women have always been the problem solvers, not the problem. Those are the marches and the conversations we should be having… How to REALLY HEAR one another, not interrupt with angry words and hate, but enter into a “Women’s Summit” with the intention of listening and learning what the truth behind our fears are. If we could do that… with the genuine intent of understanding those who don’t think as we do and understanding how we came to believe what we do; which things are true and those that are fake news, I think we could dial down the rhetoric. And maybe, just maybe, as a united force, we could have a meaningful dialog about the REAL issues and fears. Fake news, finger pointing, shouting and violence accomplishes nothing except to fan the anger. Thank you, Friend. Brenda

    • Reply 1010ParkPlace February 5, 2017 at 2:07 pm

      I hear you as well, Susan, and understand your concerns. This is a terrible time for our country, but I hope we continue to have dialogs with one another, even those we don’t agree with. Thank you, Brenda

  • Reply Jo Ann Koch February 4, 2017 at 10:44 am

    I am so glad to read a reasonable anaylsis of what is going on in our country. The pathological reaction to the eleection not only breaks my heart but frightens me.

    • Reply 1010ParkPlace February 5, 2017 at 2:21 pm

      I’m frightened as well, Jo Ann. Part of me wants to just stay in my house and withdraw from the world. The other part of me would like to think I can contribute something that gives us pause for thought and an “ah-ha” moment that compels us to reach across the aisle with a genuine desire to listen and understand, not shout and throw things and wall ourselves off to other possibilities. Thank you! Brenda

  • Reply Barbara February 4, 2017 at 11:01 am

    These are frightening times. I never thought I’d see this day but, I’m trying not to lose all hope that sanity will soon return.
    b

    • Reply 1010ParkPlace February 5, 2017 at 2:23 pm

      I feel like this has already escalated past the demonstrations of the 60s and 70s. This is shades of other countries where citizens are beaten to death with night sticks. xoxox, B

  • Reply Joanna February 4, 2017 at 11:19 am

    I congratulate you on your bravery to put your thoughts in print. Your voice can make a difference.
    The actions of your president will have far reaching consequences. Canadians are wary!

    • Reply 1010ParkPlace February 5, 2017 at 2:25 pm

      The whole word is wary of where the United States is headed. If you’re a woman of faith, perhaps you might pray about this… on a regular basis. Thank you for your bravery in commenting. Brenda

  • Reply Rena February 4, 2017 at 11:31 am

    I totally agree Brenda. It’s such a sad time for our country and it just breaks my heart. I worry about the kind of world my grandchildren are growing up in where hate is celebrated and kindness ridiculed.

    • Reply 1010ParkPlace February 5, 2017 at 2:27 pm

      You’re so right, Rena. Our world… not just our country… has changed it’s values and beliefs not just from when we were children, but in the last few years. Right now, I don’t see a happy ending, do you? xoxo, Brenda

  • Reply Deborah February 4, 2017 at 1:07 pm

    I find it interesting that when Obama was elected, the republicans didn’t like it but they went to bed, got up the next morning and got dressed and went about their day as usual. They didn’t kill policemen, torch buildings and cars, loot businesses and beat up people. And, to make matters worse, we have politician democrats encouraging this behavior. It seems that republicans hold themselves to higher standards. Regardless of where you stand politically speaking, we all better hope and pray that President Trump is successful and does a great job because if he doesn’t, the outcome will affect all of us in ways we can’t even imagine. Regarding the ban on people coming into this country from certain Muslim countries, it is only for 90 days until they get better vetting process in place. Let’s not forget that these countries were on Obama’s watch list as well. We certainly don’t want to end up like Europe with all of these random terrorist attacks!

    • Reply 1010ParkPlace February 5, 2017 at 2:34 pm

      Well said, Deborah. At this point, I think Trump could do everything Obama did, and a sector of the population would continue to demonstrate hate. Except for the Civil War, never have we been so far apart. I will say, Trump could have explained the ban better… It took an explanation from Vice President Mike Pence before some people “heard” the “90 days,” but the damage was already done.

  • Reply Cind February 4, 2017 at 2:59 pm

    Finally I can comment…. refreshing and I believe with lots here. The protest without purpose is so alarming. ( pity party)? We vote-we respect-we move on…. as the last occupant in the White House said then…after being elected……..”elections have consequences “. I cannot even imagine what the media would be reporting if there were protests back 2 terms ago.

    • Reply 1010ParkPlace February 5, 2017 at 2:37 pm

      Can you imagine ANYONE saying they thought about bombing the White House when Obama was in office? At the very least, they would have been declared racists and more than likely would have been arrested.

    • Reply holly February 12, 2017 at 3:29 pm

      there were protests – people with posters of President Obama in white-face, with Hitler mustaches, “a village in Kenya is missing an idiot”, “Obama bin lyin”, to site a few. Protests of today do have a purpose – save the Affordable Care Act, Stop the Dakota Pipeline, continue to participate in the Paris Climate Accord, preserve Planned Parenthood funding. For every person who puts on their shoes and gets out to march brings their own reasons and rite to express them. It is their rite as a citizen.

      • Reply Brenda Coffee February 12, 2017 at 4:33 pm

        Hi hear you, Holly. It’s our rite as a citizen to protest and while there were protests after Obama was elected, it was nothing compared to what’s happening now. Brenda

  • Reply Angela February 4, 2017 at 3:07 pm

    So much this. I am not happy with the state of our country and government at the moment. I am completely support and encourage people to use their voices and work toward change. Sadly, so much of it is getting lost in the hate, meanness and violence that is happening. So much ugliness out there.

    • Reply 1010ParkPlace February 5, 2017 at 2:39 pm

      I agree with you, Angela. We have the freedom to use our voices and work toward change, but what’s happening now is just creating a chasm of hate and mistrust as deep as the Grand Canyon. Thank you, Brenda

  • Reply Rebecca Forstadt Olkowski February 4, 2017 at 9:17 pm

    When over 4 million women, men, and kids marched all over the world it’s silly to say they marched without a purpose or were cry babies. Not one person was arrested. It’s about being heard and acknowledged, which is not happening. More marched at airports, town halls, and capitals. Most of the violence was done by anarchists, like in Berkeley. A President can’t spew out venom and expect people to be quiet and complacent. It’s important to speak out and be listened to in return. I had an Iranian banker living with us for a while. I also helped an extremely talented Iranian artist set up a website. All nice and not terrorists.

    • Reply 1010ParkPlace February 5, 2017 at 2:48 pm

      Yes, those who marched had purpose, and yes, they were heard. But when a new political party takes office, they were elected BECAUSE they had differing views from the last party in office. To think the new office holders, be they Democrat or Republican, are going to have an “ah-ha, I could have had a V-8” moment days after taking office is not going to happen. Thank you for sharing your big heart with us. From what I know about you, I’m not surprised you would offer your home to those who needed help. Brava! I admire you. xoxox

  • Reply Susan Tolles February 4, 2017 at 9:22 pm

    I totally agree, Brenda. Since the beginning of time, there have been battles with winners and losers. If the losers had caused total anarchy and refused to work with the winners, where would we be now? We were taught by our parents to play fair, to not throw sand in the sandbox, and to respect authority. Unfortunately, the “children” of today have missed those lessons. No matter what side you are on, it’s time to stop throwing tantrums and focus on our nation. If we could just all get along, we could do great things as the strongest nation in the world. What’s going on now is bringing us down and destroying our power. I’ve heard women spewing such hatred for other women, and that breaks my heart. Thankfully, my trust in is a sovereign God who has ultimate control over all things. His plan is greater than ours, and I find a sense of peace in that assurance.

    • Reply 1010ParkPlace February 5, 2017 at 2:57 pm

      You’ve made a great point, Susan. How could we have raised generations of children who don’t understand the concept of winning and losing? They all got trophies at their ballgames, and they didn’t learn how to try harder, learn what they were doing wrong and get better. They just stomped their feet and had tantrums. We wonder why our age group isn’t recognized by brands? I can tell you from weekly experience: Those same children aren’t interested in anyone but themselves. We are totally irrelevant to them. The young VP’s of marketing in many companies don’t care that women over 45 spend more money than all the 21-39-year-olds put together, or how we can affect the profits of their companies. They just aren’t interested. I fear the children and grandchildren many of us have raised don’t have the critical thinking skills and the ability to see beyond their own wants. That doesn’t bode well for a strong America. xoxox, Brenda

  • Kathy Walker Webb
    Reply Kathy Walker Webb February 5, 2017 at 8:46 am

    Great post. My heart exactly.

    • 1010 Park Place
      Reply 1010 Park Place February 6, 2017 at 9:49 pm

      Thank you, Kathy. I’m sorry there’s even a need for a post like this one.

  • Reply 1010ParkPlace February 5, 2017 at 2:58 pm

    Thank you, Kathy! I’d like to say it’s comforting that I’m not the only one who feels this way, but it’s alarming! Brenda

  • Reply tara dillard February 8, 2017 at 7:49 am

    I’m a follow the money type of figure-it-out. What began decades ago, now flowered. Age 7, growing up across street from NASA, dad a rocket scientist who designed rockets from capsule to boosters and training the pilots, aka astronauts. National news then, a big deal for dad to listen. What was put on air about NASA events? Mostly, dad had a smile/laugh, the news coasted over truths. Men had to get into space, onto moon and back. Truth be damned.

    National news stations had a broadcast booth atop the local hotel edging my neighborhood on Galveston Bay. My healthy disdain for the press began then, 1967.

    More, I was raised to believe in opposing views of politics, dad later became a city councilman, and was on local zoning board. Differing political views never stopped conversation or friendships. Pussyhat march was great, enjoyed reading about all their various reasons for being there. Had several clients attend in DC or London.

    Me? I’m on the local planning commission for my county. Stewardship & community activism. More, my local speed walking has become walking with yoga. What? I’m the local trash lady. When I walk, I take bags and pick up trash. Living rural this is huge. Most surprising is all the people I meet thru this venture. And the stories they tell.

    Stewardship, consistent, active involvement with stewardship. We each have a role to play. Some march, some pick up trash. We need every voice. Excepting those of violence. MLK writings of agape love are profound.

    Thank you Brenda for your activism. Oddly I believe my personal activism should be ‘fun’. And, I sense that in you too.

    Garden & Be Well, XOT

  • Charlesñjoycee Silverman
    Reply Charlesñjoycee Silverman February 8, 2017 at 12:31 pm

    My heart hurts…

    • Reply 1010ParkPlace February 8, 2017 at 1:40 pm

      Joyce, I can’t imagine there’s any thinking person in this country–regardless of who they voted for–who isn’t in a great deal of turmoil and pain. Thank you! Brenda

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